Mom can tune out the noise. It's not really noise after all, it's just family life happening.
For dad, noise is kryptonite.
Mom can breathe and count to ten.
Dad can forget he ever learned to count.
Mom can multitask. Empty the dishwasher, whip up dinner, clean a spill, correct a math problem all while making a talking teenager feel loved and understood over a day's problems.
Dad ... rainbow wheel.
Time away from the family makes mom miss and think about them more. There's eagerness in the return. She's ready to tackle it all again.
Dad steps in from his quiet work space. He knows that when he walks through that door, the young will smell fresh meat and their hungering neediness will strip him of all he has left to give.
We're as different as night and day but when it comes to parenting, we're on the same page, right? Unless...
This mom draws from Gospel Truth, calming an argument with, "What would Jesus have you do? How would you react differently if He were standing here right now? Would you say that? Would you do that?" It's the perfect recollection of how one ought to behave.
But, THIS dad was recently caught drawing on George Lucus, stopping a disagreement with, "No crying, no fighting. I want you to behave. When you are around me, I want you to think before you act ... 'Would Darth Vader like what I am doing? How would he feel if he were standing here beside me? What would he do? What would he say?' And if Darth Vader wouldn't tolerate your actions ... then you should stop what you are doing and change your behavior in my presence, too."
I guess, there you have it. Forget about making home a bit of heaven, just think of this as the Death Star.